The Asian women I’ve met through marriage agencies and dating sites have been some of the most wondrous women I have ever met in my life. But why should single men have all the fun? How about gay women? Is it possible to find lesbian mail order brides for same-sex marriages?
Breaking News… Lesbian Women Are Everywhere!
Well here’s some good news if you’re a lesbian woman – it’s not too difficult to find lesbian women in any country on the planet. So whether you’re interested in Latin American, Russian or Asian women, you’ll be able to find your dream lesbian mail order bride.
One problem though is that not all countries have the kind of openness that allows gay men and women to be open about their sexuality. I’ve heard plenty of stories of Asian lesbians actually marrying men and becoming mail order brides, simply because of the cultural traditions in their own country. In fact gay men also have a hard time in Asia. Many Asian gay men will marry women and even go onto raise families. But it doesn’t alter the fact that they’re still gay.
Where to Find Mail Order Lesbian Brides
There are quite a number of mail order brides themed websites. In general they’re packed full of Russian, Asian or Latin women, and are designed to appeal to men seeking foreign brides. These sites cater solely for Western men seeking foreign brides. So it’s not worth bothering with sites such as Chnlove or Asian Beauties.
So I’ve done a bit of an investigation to try and uncover the best dating sites for finding a lesbian partner.
I’ve discounted the flirting, adult dating and short term relationship sites. These aren’t generally good places to find long term life partners. So I’ve focussed on sites where the women are more interested in forming marriages and civil partnerships.
Asian Lesbian Brides
I’ll start with Asia. Asian women are fantastic, and I think more lesbian women should consider finding a partner from Asia. Heterosexual men know that Asian women can make loving and devoted brides. And the misconception that Asian women are shy and submissive is wide of the mark. Chinese women often wear the trousers in a relationship – especially those from the North and East of China.
There are a wide range of Asian dating sites where it could be possible to find lesbian women. The Kisses dating sites are quite good for finding a wider range of partnership types. They’re German based sites and a bit more open to the possibility of other types of relationship. For example, they’re the only major Asian dating websites where it’s possible to search for a man, woman or ladyboy.
On Asian Kisses I found 497 women who claimed to be seeking women for relationships. How many of these are actual lesbians is hard to tell though. To be honest I don’t like this site anymore – it got redesigned and the new design makes it very hard to use.
DateInAsia is another site that’s good for seeking partners for non-standard heterosexual relationships. Sadly the search engine on this site is very basic, and the site has no concept of a woman wanting to search for another woman. This site is free though, and if you’re willing to spend a few hours searching on the site then you can find some interesting members.
The Cupid dating sites are popular with men seeking Asian mail order brides. AsianDating.com is one of their most popular sites. So I searched for women seeking women on the site, and it didn’t seem to show many lesbian women. Maybe you need to register as a woman first. The site has free membership, but you need to pay if you want to contact the other free members on the site (most of whom are the Asian women). There are definitely gay men on Asian Dating though, so there should be lesbian women as well.
If you know which country you want to find a partner from then Cupid Media also run a whole load of other Asian dating sites. Chinese Love Links, Thai Love Links and Filipino Cupid are three of the most popular.
So Asian lesbians do exist, but they’re not particularly easy to find.
One problem is that same sex relationships are still kind of taboo throughout Asia. For example, I once studied at a well known and fairly prestigious university in China. Two of their female students came out as being openly lesbian. The university didn’t want the bad publicity so they stopped the girls from graduating. So sad!
Russian and Latin Lesbian Brides
The majority of Russian dating sites are aimed at American and Canadian men seeking Russian mail order brides. Sites like Elena’s Models have no facility where you can specify that you’re a woman seeking a woman.
I didn’t have much luck finding Latin lesbian mail order brides either. Latin Euro is a great Latin dating site if you’re a man. But strangely if you use the advanced search facility to specify that you’re a woman seeking a woman, then you get shown some very attractive busty Latinas, but they’re most definitely seeking men. Of course they might really be lesbian and just seeking a man for a green card, but that’s just one of the many hazards a man seeking a foreign bride will face.
To be honest the mainstream mail order brides sites seem like a bit of a dead loss for finding lesbian women. A better option might be to head for a lesbian niche dating site like Pink Cupid or PlanetSappho. Use a site with a large member base and you’re sure to find a woman of an ethnicity you find appealing. Pink Cupid is great because you can search on nationality and race.
One word of warning with foreign dating though. There are many scammers on dating sites, and scammers can be both male and female. So if you are looking for love overseas, then make sure you’re as well read up about romance scams as men seeking foreign brides are. Women are particularly vulnerable to scammers, since women tend to fall quite easily for the sad stories that scammers often make up in order to tug at your heart strings.
Women and Ladyboy Girlfriends
Ladyboy dating is certainly getting pretty popular these days. There are even transgender niche sites where you can look for a trans partner on. Two of the best are MyLadyboyDate and MyTransSexualDate. So I wonder if many women are interested in transsexual dating experiences?
I know that some girls have a thing for transgenders. A few years ago I was living in Thailand and I happened to chat to this Thai girl on a dating site there. Well it turns out she was interested in ladyboys. I never heard of that before.
Why would you want to date a transgender man? Well while I was living in Thailand I found ladyboys to be on the whole very smart. They were smarter than the average guys I met, and way smarter than biological women. So if you value intelligence in a partner, then transgenders are certainly worth a look.
By the way, if you do find a good lesbian dating site with plenty of nice foreign women, then leave your hot tip in the comments section below…
Hello! This was posted in 2011, have you by any chance found anything now? I’d really love to find a lesbian girl! If you have any info, I’d appreciate it very much 🙂
Hi Femme,
Since I wrote this I went to live in China, Thailand and Malaysia for a year so I did plenty of dating research!
I’ve also found out that the Cupid dating sites are kind of OK for same sex hookups. You need to register as a female, and change your requirements to also look for a female. Just be aware that a few Asian women do put that they’re seeking a woman, but really they mean a man (sometimes they get mixed up). Mix ups are more common on Thai Cupid/Chinese Cupid due to the language barrier.
As far as countries go, there are gay and lesbian people in all countries of the world. But I definitely found in Asia that more people would marry the opposite sex “for appearances”.
The best lesbian dating opportunities are to be found in larger cities, so think Tokyo, Bangkok or Shanghai.
Western women are highly valued in Asia as English teachers and in other professions, so it’s not too hard to go there if you want to. Just remember to keep your professional and personal life separate as Asian societies are still relatively conservative.
Good luck!
Did you ever have any luck Femme. I would love to have a wife, but my business makes it so women in the US only see my paycheck amount. I’m actually a very attractive butch and only 32, but end up with superficial women who end up bedding everyone when I’m away for business. I mean I don’t want one of those women who only want to be with me for money, and I don’t want a submissive wife. I just want someone to see past my government clearance and paycheck.
Casey, there don’t seem to be many relevant lesbian dating sites for actual relationships, much less lesbian mail order brides. Even “the gay eHarmony” seems to be full of scammers, people not looking for something serious, or girls who want to move in after the first message.
Making meaningful, relationship minded connections online is as difficult as ever, despite this being the technology age.
Best of luck.
Just wanted to say hi. HI
love to have one as well. dating sites not working for me. and prospects are limited here. hope you find someone that see you for you and love you
Where are you located? I’m in the US and having trouble finding a partner as well.
So did you ever find any good dating sites
Casey: I am a very successful American woman and I have the same issue and have considered a mail order bride, but I am fairly androgynous looking for an androgynous or soft butch Wife and all of the sites I have found only host high femme ladies. I am a busy professional and dating is time and energy consuming. I have found so many scammers and games online and that has led me to this search. Any interest in an American woman? ?
Have you had any luck??
Angelique did you find a partner. I’m a hard working lady. I’m finding it hard to find a partner with substance. Utah is a strange place for lesbians.
Small towns make it hard to find woman too. I just want to share my life with somebody. Why is it so hard to find someone who wants the same thing.
I’m in utah aswell, and it’s not the most popular state for gays…all admit it’s getting slightly better, but I live in a rural part of the state and there isn’t very many options to choose from .:(
I’d love to bring an exotic woman around. 🙂
Angelique….how on earth do I contact you! You sound like my type! I’m a working professional as well, don’t have time for the scams and sifting through all the duds.
Good Luck girl!
Monika…xxxx
Hi I just wanted to wish u a lot of luck and to say u will find that special one. I too refuse to date someone who sleeps around and when I met my soulmate I thought she was the one but it seems she has more partners since we met than before. I wish u all the best and keep ur standards high because u deserve the best. Never settle.
Hey Casey. Did you ever find a respectable woman? Anyone that respects you and relationship boundaries?
How about an English bride? I’m from hertfordshire England. I’m educated, own my own house and have short blonde hair…i’m 40 and a tomboy. I want a wife i’m aching for long term companionship and to look after and be looked after equally.
Did you find your girl?
My friend Maya wants a lesbian mail order bride for Christmas. How might I go about this process?
Thank you so much for this article ! To have taken the time to do research and offer your insight is truly appreciated. The part about ” very attractive busty Latinas” was inspiring.
I am a trans female about to undergo my bottom surgery in a little less than 9 months. I would love to find a lesbian bride to have a child with before my surgery and raise our child together Possibly even do some artificial insemination later after my surgery for more kids. Should I stick with the traditional tactics for finding a lesbian bride laid out here or try something different?
I hope you found her!
Im new too this.
hi I am married but I love being women and I am lesbian I am looking for my lesbian love
I want explore with my love I will let u when we are together in warm hug only girls no male pls
Veey interesting article. I am a white Namibian Lesbian women. In my country being gay is an absolute no go. I am looking for a women to spent my life with. Where would you suggest I go search
I am interested in meeting someone from another country who is serious about love and marriage. I wonder if the admin would let is exchange information somehow.
I too am having a hard time on dating sites im looking for long term and no drama and theres always the drama, I make good money too for a women, so I see where your coming from and I’m soft butch and want a femme but its hard to find a down to earth real lady. anyone out there?
Tough to find but they exist…I hope
Hi seems like we all came for the same thing and somehow none have a solution…Well we all seek on…Good luck
Wow i guess I’m not the only one having a hard time. Ive been on every dating site going and only found scammers. I m just looking for someone to share my life with. I’m not rich but am a very hard worker. Ive made a fresh start with my life and have done my alone time and now would love a wife to share all my love with. If anyone is interested just give me a shout. I am a very soft butch who loves femmes. I am 48 yrs old and live in N.Y. State. I’m on the KIK app if you want to drop by and say hello and see what i look like. Username: carriechappell10. Hope to hear from you soon
Hey…I’d be interested. I too am fed up with the games and drama.
I just want someone I can be with and trust hit me up snapchat if ya wanna talk terra_heath29
I’m on FB by the way. My profile picture shows a scuba diver because that’s my biggest hobby. Anyone interested in a serious committed relationship should look me up and say hi.
This is probably going to be a long shot but at this stage in my life what else do I have to loose?
My name is Michelle and I would love to meet up with a woman and see where life takes us.
I’m a very hard working career minded woman who owns her own home and makes a very very decent living working in the federal government.
If what I have to say interests anyone then I’d love to hear from you. Five.Four.Zero.Eight.Five.Zero.Eight.Eight.Two.Five
As far as what I am looking for…
I totally see myself getting married. I am not the type of person that just wants to play house. If that makes any sense, I’m really interested and want to have a long-term committed monogamous relationship that definitely leads to getting married.
But I’m all Scorpio. I am a no bullshit what you see is what you get.
I don’t believe in having a toe in. If I’m going to do something, I’m fully committed and I love with all my heart and soul.
I have so much love to give and I feel like at 45 I don’t want to waste anymore time for It’s such a waste for anybody to be playing games or not wanting to be serious about what they want out of life.
I truly believe that I have that special person out there and that she is my best friend she is my biggest fan and my loyal confidant and companion and I am all of those same things to her as well.
I want to enjoy life’s beauty and happiness and travel with sexy dinners out and enjoy dancing in the kitchen while fixing my wife breakfast on Sunday morning after sleeping in.
I’m a die hard romantic at heart and I am excited for my future as long as we are on the same page and are working towards the same goals together.
I think we could move mountains together (we is used in general terms) I just want the chance to have someone in my life who wants to be with somebody who loves them good bad or indifferent flaws and all.
I’m not A-sexual nor am I a bed-hopper. I want depth. I want to know you and what you’re thinking and how you feel and feel comfortable in all facets of my relationship with my partner.
I need to get to a place where I can let my self be comfortable and completely vulnerable with her before I feel the need to sleep with her. But when I do… Well I’m just say… You will never be unhappy!!!
I am however a very passionate woman and I am a very passionate lover. True scorpio ♏️ at heart. I will always support you and show you my love and respect as well as my affection for you.
Can the one tranny stfu and go to some other dating app where he can meet others lmao